Michael and I have been married for a little over two months, and what a sweet sweet time it has been for us. While reflecting on what we have learned, several lessons and insights were identified:
- Marriage is a gift and wonderful privilege!
- You are on the same team. Cheer each other on and use positive affirmations daily.
- Love is a choice that takes consistent effort and affection.
- Even though you are married, neither person is an expert in “mindreading.” Communicate directly rather than hoping or assuming the other partner knows exactly what you want or need.
- Individual time is important and good, as is continuing to make time for friends, family, and colleagues.
- Practice the “yes” spiral; as one person agrees to do something (e.g., washing clothes), the other person is more likely to say “yes” to something else (e.g., taking out the trash). Also, never leave the dishes in the sink overnight. Make sure you have a clean kitchen before you go to bed.
- Remember to say “thank you” and “please,” just as you would say to another important person that you respect and love.
- Marriage is a transition full of changes, so be compassionate with one another as you adjust to a “new norm.”
- We are human, and humans will make mistakes and “mess up.” The important thing is to acknowledge what happened, take responsibility, and ask for forgiveness.
- Pray together every day. Pray for your marriage, for one another, and for yourself.